Ideal routine to stay idle

An ideal routine to waste time and ruin a gifted life. It’s my routine … the most unfortunate thing is that I really know I’m wasting my time and letting my life and talent to rust. I feel pity to myself.

I wake up at 5:30 in the morning, and then say good morning to God. The next 30 minutes for brushing, bathing etc. then I go to church at 6.15. Im not that religious; this thing is a part of being a perfect daughter; just to please my mother. To me, it’s more like morning walk/site seeing. The pamba flows smoothly and beautifully… and I try to avoid conversations with people. They ask the same question everyday: “Dear, what are you doing now? You got any job?” ….

I reach home by 7:30 after the Holy Mass. Then, its time for breakfast. After having it, I ask my mother if she need any help at kitchen. I always want to hear, NO. By 9.00, I sleep- morning sleep! , till 12 noon. Then some browsing and ‘orkuting’…The very next thing is lunch. And after that, I watch TV. Some shows or a movie. Now its tea time. Since I don’t drink tea/coffee, I only eat some snacks (or second lunch). Then by 4, I sleep again- evening nap! , till 5. Then I go to my neighbors’ home and spent some time quality time with the kids… I think it’s the only good thing I do nowadays. Then back to home at 6.30. Then some browsing and all…probably there will be some information like the DoJ will be lagged. Depressed!

Its time for evening prayer now. It will be over by 7.30. And then dinner.then I spend some time in my not-so- favorite swing. Again TV time till 11-12 or browsing. And the day is over. Good night sleep…

- nowadays I use my cell phone only to play games / to attend incoming calls(too rare)

- Since I got bored by this style, I tried to study something. It didn’t work, Im too lazy.

- I tried to write the code for the game ‘CAT & BULL’ (4 digit number). Can the number be found in 7 steps? Or 10 steps needed?

- I stopped reading and sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy.

Times indicated above are just approximations.

Questions...

Time is up for some silly questions …answer only if you have plenty of ‘free’ time.

1. Have you ever felt like that there is something wrong with the spelling of a very familiar word? Especially, when seen on a computer screen. I’m always confused about ‘thank –you’ !
2. Count your teeth using your tongue. Do your eyes move with your tongue?
3. Now, count your teeth with the help of a mirror. Is it same as that of above method?
4. The oldest thing that you remember…how old is it? Is the difference between your age and this is less than 2?
5. 1 2 3 4 . Select one out of this.

Cheers,
Tressy

Money , Happiness & Money.

Happiness – its more than satisfaction. The dimensions for happiness may be different for different people. But one is sure, everyone wants to be happy. What makes you and me happy? One of the most important things that can make us happy is money.

Money can buy happiness. No doubt in it! It’s only a human instinct (inspired by spirituality/religion) that money cannot bring happiness. But that’s not true. Those people who believe so are unhappy when they lose money.

You can have comfort, afford luxury/celebrations, safety & security, better living conditions & life style, social status and a lot more with it. These all things make life so easy and beautiful. But the thing is, we are never satisfied. We always ‘want’ more; keeping all we have intact. We want more happiness and so we go for more money. This is because we always think that if we just had a little more, we would be more happy. And when we achieve that, again the same thought [ RESET].

Can’t say it’s not good, it’s the way to find a lot of new things and experiences.

It’s natural that we compare ourselves with others, mostly with those people who are a little above us, and we want to be a little above them and achieving this makes us feel important. And this feeling of importance and success give us happiness. So my point : ‘money is the root of all evils’ is purely untrue.

A major advantage of being rich/ having much money is that you got so much choices.[like, if you have only Rs. 100/- and want to buy a footwear your only option is a slipper. in case of some Rs. 5000/- the range of choice is large]So, that choices of your tastes make yourself well satisfied and happy. And also this choice enables you to live the way you want.

We are happy when the’ wants’ are fulfilled while we are only satisfied when the ‘needs’ are met. And that’s why rich people are happier.

Okay, now don’t misunderstand that this is the only way of happiness. When I was in school and college I was not earning a penny, but I was happy. There were other things which made me feel important in the social circle and personally. Now I am unemployed and have got nothing to feel important, which makes me unhappy though all my ‘needs’ are satisfied. What I am saying is money is an essential part.

Now, the other side; I understand from some survey results that after world war 2, the economy of US has been increasing and so the per capita income. But the happiness level of people has not shown an increase. In Japan too, the increase in per ca pita income was seven fold! , but the happiness level remains unchanged.[-reading from the map!-] So there is a saturation level for the ability of money to bring happiness.

The feeling that I am wealthier and superior induce some unfair consequences like distress and disbelief. And in the process of making money, we usually forget to consider the other ingredients, which are equally or more essential, for making life beautiful and meaningful. And sometimes we put out of your mind the real purpose for making money… its life that’s of ultimate importance… and living…

So money is no way an evil stuff and it will not spoil your life. It makes you happy, provided you know what ‘happiness’ mean to you.

cheers,

tressy.

One-One-One beats at the Plateau

I feel like my right arm is going to paralyze. {God, no! I have some more duties to do}

This post is about my blogging. I started blogging seriously last year. My real intention to start this blog: The Plateau was to express some of my unexpressed feelings and views. During college times, Friday night was my ‘blog night’. At hostel, I used to sit in the study hall alone with my laptop and ‘typed’ my ‘whatever’. It usually took hours sometimes, not to type alone, to copy from my heart.You can find that my first posts were about some of my relationships, myself and stupidity. It was all to improve myself. I was really crazy about a man and my blog became a place where I put down my cheers and tears about that. Anyway that turned out to be so good and now I am a very smart fellow on such things.

Because of my open/free mindedness, I used to expose whatever I think about. About persons, traditions or whatever. There were some personal attacks too:). There weren’t much visitors to my blog. I used to inform my friends and classmates whenever I posted a thing. Some think blogging is a waste of time and most of them never cared. Then when I became a regular blogger, I stopped that. But sometimes…Now also I don’t have many readers but have some really good ones. Im happy. I even motivated 2-3 people to start a blog.( even tressy, why cant I? :)

I felt that the posts which I consider to be very serious/ important get the least attention. I don’t know why. Problems with my considerations?I am a (moderate) visitor to other blogs { to wordpress and blogspot}.My regular visits can be seen in the right side under 'My visits'. One blog (cool raindrops) listed there is perfect to my taste! I like to read poetic posts, pictures and social issues. etc. and funny stuffs in Malayalam.Unfortunately I am not that intelligent/ patient to digest technical stuff.I often change the template. How is this one?

Now I have a Malayalam blog which is at its infancy. It requires tremendous amount of patience to post something there. But I like it too.

Ok. Now my favorite posts:

1. im worried (09 July, 2007)

2. From my heart (07 June, 2007)

3. Why not luxury ? (23 September, 2008). Im very much disappointed about this. I wanted to know whether it is like that.

4. Still waiting (19 January, 2008)

5. Once again (29 November, 2007)

Silly: most of them are silly and stupid. The most : my true color test result

The best pictures in my blog:

1. those pages :)

2. My picture in I have a dream.

3. the last supper.

Controversial:

1. Tressy speaking (19 august, 2008)

2. About a criminal offense (06 October, 2008)

--A few words about this. I am really happy that many people read my post and expressed their views/comments on it through mails, chats even though few joined the discussion @ blogger. Our opinions may be different. But we [you and me] need to change when there are sufficient reasons.

-suggestions and criticisms are most welcome-

I am really proud and happy about my blog and also I thank you all for making me feel so. Especially you :)

Thank you God.

Cheers{an extraordinary broad smile},

Tressy

Ciel

Always peeping out to see you close. But every time, something comes in the way. And that something makes me forget you. And, also this time....

Still you are there...watching me, sending me kisses all the time. I know you will be there for me for ever and ever.

Im gonna touch you, may be next time.

About a criminal offense

No human is hundred percent male or female. There are many factors other than the sexual organs/gender that determine the sexual orientation/sexuality of a person.
In India, ’homosexuality’ is a criminal offense. Section 377 of the IPC states
"Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to 10 years and shall also be liable for a term which may extend to 10 years and shall also be liable to fine”.
What I don’t understand is that how come such a private matter becomes a criminal offense? Most times, gays/lesbians are treated in a not so fair manner in the society {even though ‘tolerated’}. May be because we Indians are conservative. But I believe that homosexuality is not that younger to heterosexuality {Manu Smriti pronounces severe punishments for male as well as female homosexuality.}
Is it really unnatural to have that kind of feelings? Feelings are natural. If a person really feels that way, pleased with his/her way of life without harming others what’s the problem then? I think they call it against the nature of law because this does not lead to reproduction and consider it just for pleasure and fun. After all everyone has choices to live the way a person wants it to be [without causing any offence to others rights]. And that depends on one’s belief, morality and culture.
Actually I came to know about homosexuality when I was in the boarding school. There some popular/smart girls had so many ‘fans’ and these ‘fans’ were fighting each other all the time. The ‘popular girl’ used to change her interest towards each ‘fan’ as time goes. And they spent a lot of time together. I was totally unaware what was happening. Then it was at college [@ a women’s college] I came to know about this exact stuff. I totally disagreed/disliked with the concept and was irritated. Some of the girls even had gone beyond the limits. I don’t know whether they really had such feelings; they did that for fun (!). I understand that this is common in girls only/boys only/women’s institutions where they don’t get much chance to get mingled with the other sex. But no real ‘homosexual’ feelings.
But there are people with real feelings, which I believe to be natural. I really don’t know that homosexuality/bisexuality is a good thing. But anyway it is not a criminal offense.
Isn’t it time to decriminalize homosexuality?
---Motivation: we the people, NDTV---
cheers,
tressy

I have a dream...

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream - I have a dream
I have a dream, a fantasy
To help me through reality
And my destination makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream - I have a dream

-Coast to Coast, Westlife

tressy-sitting pretty- since 1987.

im back... with more dreams, more hopes, more worries, more smile and more love!
cheers,
tressy