Relationships/marriage: Revisited.

Scope: Immense, practicability: Almost nil *
Can you guess what I am talking about? 
Its about relationships again!  
(first edtn :http://tresspearls.blogspot.com/2008/08/tressy-speaking.html )
Im a kind of person who usually does what I want to do.Its my desire, {Whether it is good or bad to others },that is of high priority. When we feel like we want someone to share our "whatever" and to live with, whats wrong in living with the one we choose to live with?  Without much committments , the fun would be more.  The responsibilities are less and you can get out of it , when you feel uncomfortable. This kinda relationships work as long as everything is fine. But we (feel the need)/really need someone when something is not so fine. Especially at times of stress, sorrow, dilema and "full stops" of life.
Coming to the other option:  marriage, the responsiblities, commitments , obligations are more. What do you get extra for these? May be a little more secure feeling or the feeling that there will be someone to care about during the "not so fine" times.  May be the feeling that there will be someone / relations, as a result of marriage, can make us comfortable during the time of discomfort... May be it provides us with a respectable position in the society...The advantage of making a commitment is that we try to keep it in shape as far as possible, while in the other case, we dont really bother.But ,here also there is no guarantee for the results...Sometimes the efforts may go waste.  We usually dont want to loose those things which we have sacrificed a lot . And we feel value or importance of something when we are emotionally attached and intimated.
When time goes... our priorities, needs and interests change. So the "fun and freedom" we were after(in case of former) may become of very less priority. Now at that time,  that "extra" assurance or secure feeling may make us happy/keep us going in life. The feeling that there will be someone to care about us may do a lot.
Actually I am not trying to draw a conclusion on what is better to go for. It all depends on the person. The more practical/possible thing in our society is the latter.
Since I never felt that i need someone else to complete my life, I really dont feel the need for both! :) If I ever feel that way, I would like to choose the first one... But as i have said, its scope is immense and practicability is almost nil in our society. And we cannot simply ignore the "society" and we dont want to loose what(may be relations/people/status/love/care) we already have, all for a single person. I mean its not that practical. :) 
In one of my previous posts, someone asked me about my "special" kinda guy. Then only I really thought about it. . . My kinda guy... To tell the truth, there is noone who happens to have much "special" priority. Still ..there are some things, which I cannot exactly put into words. lemme try   :) 
hmmm...yeah...// That person must be of  value that I should feel satisfied to live with and happy to submit myself. I should be proud to be with him... I should feel that he is of almost equal importance to me as myself in my life. The "value" can be  referred as perspective of life , the way of living,  independence in thoughts/faith/belief, intelligence etc...etc...a person of quality....Moreover he must be proud of himself and the way he lives. :)  :)) <<<;And must be proud of having me in his life :)) //


Cheers,
Tressy


*Courtesy: Swift.

Creator?

Here is a good piece of cake .... This is from the book "WHY" By Travis W. Haan.


"It‟s been theorized that the universe could have been designed by some form of intelligence. There‟s no conclusive evidence to back this theory up, but it‟s not entirely without precedent. After all, we ourselves are intelligent beings who arose from inanimate matter. And in a universe where you can‟t get something from nothing it would explain where our intelligence came from. Granted, that still leaves the issue of where the creator came from, which is no small question. Maybe the creator existed forever. Of course, if He did then maybe the universe existed forever as well, but if that were the case then the universe wouldn‟t have needed a creator to create it since it was always there."



What you say?

Cheers,

Tressy

PS: Lifes pretty busy nowadays. It's nothing , but work!!! At times, I feel its hard and the schedules are tight but you know, its interesting. Being sterssed...having no time to waste. The other side of it is , there is not much time to share with friends and read anything. 

I always wanted to be occuppied with something all the time. So I like it this way but do miss some valuable moments. 

She was beautiful!!!

So one more year has passed; one step closer to something and one step away from some other thing.
Here comes the review on 2009, for/to/by Tressy.
Last year was ofcourse my best year in life...But i dont see it as a very special year. A lot of beautiful things happened... A lot of experiences. Im very happy that I came to know about some intersting people and I m having them around.

And amazed that how good I am.:)
Isnt it good that  I have my own thoughts, decisions, time and relationships in my life? HMM ya , everything is fine. And it doesnt mean that all that happens my life is good or pleasure only{ anyway,it must not be}. I am able to experience and accept the unhappy/negative things as such to a very good extend. One other way of saying it is... i like/want all kind of things to happen in my life :)).
**In 2009
I started working in Mainframe technology. People say it is a closed system ;no more growth in the technology.hmmm...Its not bad. I am comfortable with it.
I got involved in some relationships, which i enjoyed and am enjoying a lot. Moreover I love these people,more than i thought i would. And also Some broke... it has to be this way, no?
A new realisation: Ido hurt people very much, eventhough it isnt intentional.
A lot of internal conflicts occured...more related on atheism, self , society, god, attitudes, living, death etc...
I have become an aesthete...:))
The evenings at seashore i spent alone were truly wonderful! No words to describe how much i love it.
I am still single.
I have "seen" a lot of midnights of 2009.
A number of reunions happened in 2009, Nice but not much changes to people.
I laughed enormous times and cried only thrice (or twice) last year!!! I do deserve it, huh!
Why is that I am good almost all the time? hmmm?
A thought : I dont think that good and "favourable" things happen for good or right people only. The factors are different. And good people are not the only one who really get good things in life. The "others" probably get much more than they deserve.

And , some best of 2009 for me:
Person-Me {who else}
Book-God's Debris by Scott Adam
Song-Pularumo (Ritu)
Place- Besant Nagar Beach
Day- Jan 2

Love you :)
Cheers and hugs,
Tressy.
PS: Welcoming 2k10, with hope . Let it be colorful! No particular resolution for "new year", as for me the resolution is to become a better person everyday of my life :)