Relationships/marriage: Revisited.

Scope: Immense, practicability: Almost nil *
Can you guess what I am talking about? 
Its about relationships again!  
(first edtn :http://tresspearls.blogspot.com/2008/08/tressy-speaking.html )
Im a kind of person who usually does what I want to do.Its my desire, {Whether it is good or bad to others },that is of high priority. When we feel like we want someone to share our "whatever" and to live with, whats wrong in living with the one we choose to live with?  Without much committments , the fun would be more.  The responsibilities are less and you can get out of it , when you feel uncomfortable. This kinda relationships work as long as everything is fine. But we (feel the need)/really need someone when something is not so fine. Especially at times of stress, sorrow, dilema and "full stops" of life.
Coming to the other option:  marriage, the responsiblities, commitments , obligations are more. What do you get extra for these? May be a little more secure feeling or the feeling that there will be someone to care about during the "not so fine" times.  May be the feeling that there will be someone / relations, as a result of marriage, can make us comfortable during the time of discomfort... May be it provides us with a respectable position in the society...The advantage of making a commitment is that we try to keep it in shape as far as possible, while in the other case, we dont really bother.But ,here also there is no guarantee for the results...Sometimes the efforts may go waste.  We usually dont want to loose those things which we have sacrificed a lot . And we feel value or importance of something when we are emotionally attached and intimated.
When time goes... our priorities, needs and interests change. So the "fun and freedom" we were after(in case of former) may become of very less priority. Now at that time,  that "extra" assurance or secure feeling may make us happy/keep us going in life. The feeling that there will be someone to care about us may do a lot.
Actually I am not trying to draw a conclusion on what is better to go for. It all depends on the person. The more practical/possible thing in our society is the latter.
Since I never felt that i need someone else to complete my life, I really dont feel the need for both! :) If I ever feel that way, I would like to choose the first one... But as i have said, its scope is immense and practicability is almost nil in our society. And we cannot simply ignore the "society" and we dont want to loose what(may be relations/people/status/love/care) we already have, all for a single person. I mean its not that practical. :) 
In one of my previous posts, someone asked me about my "special" kinda guy. Then only I really thought about it. . . My kinda guy... To tell the truth, there is noone who happens to have much "special" priority. Still ..there are some things, which I cannot exactly put into words. lemme try   :) 
hmmm...yeah...// That person must be of  value that I should feel satisfied to live with and happy to submit myself. I should be proud to be with him... I should feel that he is of almost equal importance to me as myself in my life. The "value" can be  referred as perspective of life , the way of living,  independence in thoughts/faith/belief, intelligence etc...etc...a person of quality....Moreover he must be proud of himself and the way he lives. :)  :)) <<<;And must be proud of having me in his life :)) //


Cheers,
Tressy


*Courtesy: Swift.