Some facts and thoughts.

• If you ask someone "what do you have in mind for next 5 years? " , most of them reply like I am not a person who plan events/ideas for a period and live to that. And some may have a vague idea and some others, a very few, have a clear cut picture what they want and have to be in life. Why so? Why people are not serious about their own life? Why are they letting their life go with some flow? Dont they want to live their life?  Why most people are ready to accept or compromise to(I would like to use the word SURRENDER), themselves to something less important?
• If you ask the person "What would you do if you die next year?" , there will be a list of things which is much different from the above. Why people want to live differently if they come to know they are going to die soon? Or is it something like, they think about their life and its purpose only when they think about death?
• Life is not just about marriage or husband or having kids. You are the very important part of it.
• Heart really has nothing to do for another person. It beats for your life only.

Cheers,
Tressy.

this magic always works :)

The beauty of it faded,
The fragrance of it is nomore anything to me,
Now it just another flower,
Which just bloomed out one day,
And went with that wind.

Time is such a wonderful magic!


Cheers,
Tressy

Being Romantic.

A few days back someone asked me in the mid of a serious conversation , Are you romantic? I didnt expect such a question and I was not prepared to answer it. I didn't know what it means, romance and being romantic. So later when I reached back home, I searched in google to find it; atleast the exact literal meaning. What I could find there are :
romantic

• belonging to or characteristic of Romanticism or the Romantic Movement in the arts; "romantic poetry"
• a soulful or amorous idealist
• A person with romantic character; A person who is behaving romantically; Concerned with, or conducive to, romance and love; Idealistic yet impractical; Passionate and imaginative rather than structured

which unfortunately didnt enlighten me to find , how is it being romantic! :(

So after giving it a fine thought I came to this conclusion. Being romantic includes the following practices.
1. Flirt: Express, expose and exaggerate your interest in your partner and seduce. The more genuine it  seems, the more successful you are.

2. Show care : Showing concern and love the way your partner expects.

3. Be original : Try your own ideas and something different which surprises your partner.
4. Physical contact : A kiss or hug or a contact at the right moment and right place will do wonders :)
5. Be a little more possessive.
6. At times, act childlike.

The above 6 points make the first-cut thought result on "Romance" .
Note: As I never got a chance to be in a romantic relationship, these are purely theoretical based on common sense.

Cheers,
Tressy

Its on.

 Recently I started feeling I need someone for now and forever in my life with me.  So for a past few months I have been involved in one of the "hunt" for the "other person in my life" .
 I have never thought that it would be this much difficult to find a person as my expectation is just a " well employed, tall and dark guy from a middle class family" . I consider myself an average girl, with a decent job. In case of arrange marriage, you generally cannot go beyond some superficial things. But when the game began, I realised its not that easy; mostly because this involves a lot of people, their feelings and all those soft stuffs and stress and a lot of unnecessary things like social background, relations, history etc... 
Many a times I pitied myself for not have found a guy for myself. It could have saved so much effort and trouble. The boring formal procedures, discussions and the long wait and stress for the results. Feel like passing an exam or getting a job is much better.
I am a kinda person who believed that live-in relationships are much better than a marriage. Except some practical things(but they are very very important) still i feel like live-in relationships are not bad if you dont intend to have a long term relationship.


However, the hunt is on and going on and I'm bored but waiting.


Cheers,
Tressy :)


PS: why Marriage?- We marry because we want to make some things certain. Like...You will be there for me when I need you, you will share with me "mine" and "urs', making it "ours", have fun and joy and the pain together and to have our kids... And to make my life lovable, lively and beautiful till my end.
Isnt this what we are looking in a marriage? I mean-a certainity in these things.
And sometimes late at 60's, looking at the wedding snap, should be able to tell I love us.