Recently I started feeling I need someone for now and forever in my life with me. So for a past few months I have been involved in one of the "hunt" for the "other person in my life" .
I have never thought that it would be this much difficult to find a person as my expectation is just a " well employed, tall and dark guy from a middle class family" . I consider myself an average girl, with a decent job. In case of arrange marriage, you generally cannot go beyond some superficial things. But when the game began, I realised its not that easy; mostly because this involves a lot of people, their feelings and all those soft stuffs and stress and a lot of unnecessary things like social background, relations, history etc...
Many a times I pitied myself for not have found a guy for myself. It could have saved so much effort and trouble. The boring formal procedures, discussions and the long wait and stress for the results. Feel like passing an exam or getting a job is much better.
I am a kinda person who believed that live-in relationships are much better than a marriage. Except some practical things(but they are very very important) still i feel like live-in relationships are not bad if you dont intend to have a long term relationship.
However, the hunt is on and going on and I'm bored but waiting.
Cheers,
Tressy :)
PS: why Marriage?- We marry because we want to make some things certain. Like...You will be there for me when I need you, you will share with me "mine" and "urs', making it "ours", have fun and joy and the pain together and to have our kids... And to make my life lovable, lively and beautiful till my end.
Isnt this what we are looking in a marriage? I mean-a certainity in these things.
And sometimes late at 60's, looking at the wedding snap, should be able to tell I love us.
I have never thought that it would be this much difficult to find a person as my expectation is just a " well employed, tall and dark guy from a middle class family" . I consider myself an average girl, with a decent job. In case of arrange marriage, you generally cannot go beyond some superficial things. But when the game began, I realised its not that easy; mostly because this involves a lot of people, their feelings and all those soft stuffs and stress and a lot of unnecessary things like social background, relations, history etc...
Many a times I pitied myself for not have found a guy for myself. It could have saved so much effort and trouble. The boring formal procedures, discussions and the long wait and stress for the results. Feel like passing an exam or getting a job is much better.
I am a kinda person who believed that live-in relationships are much better than a marriage. Except some practical things(but they are very very important) still i feel like live-in relationships are not bad if you dont intend to have a long term relationship.
However, the hunt is on and going on and I'm bored but waiting.
Cheers,
Tressy :)
PS: why Marriage?- We marry because we want to make some things certain. Like...You will be there for me when I need you, you will share with me "mine" and "urs', making it "ours", have fun and joy and the pain together and to have our kids... And to make my life lovable, lively and beautiful till my end.
Isnt this what we are looking in a marriage? I mean-a certainity in these things.
And sometimes late at 60's, looking at the wedding snap, should be able to tell I love us.
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